Obviously, the better choice is the first one, but for some reason that is hard to do. All of our fears come to the forefront and we imagine the worst will happen with our man hangs with his homies. Here are some things you can do to counteract those fears and be the "cool girl" who lets her guy go out on the town. First, remember that most men are all talk and no action. They like to think all the girls are after them, but truthfully, they probably are not.

Of course he will talk big and tell you about all the girls who will hit on him when he goes out; just know that he is exaggerating because he is a man. Instead of getting jealous, act the opposite. Tell him he's so hot that all the girls would be lucky to have him. He will eat it up, and wonder why you are not jealous like his other girlfriends were. This will send him the message that you are secure and don't need him, and he will be more attracted to you for giving off that vibe.

A day or two before he goes out, get dressed up and go out with your girls on the spur of the moment. Don't give him any warning; just let him see you in your short skirt and heels walking out the door in a cloud of perfume. When he asks you what's up, just give him a sweet smile and say "night out with the girls, baby, I might be late, so don't wait up." This will have his head spinning. He will wonder all night what's going on, and a little worry is good for him.

This sends the message that you are strong and secure and what he does will not affect your life at all. You choose to date him for now, and you can choose to not date him at any time. This attitude will keep him in line when he does go out. You are a prize, so act like it! Don't stoop to jealousy and temper tantrums when he needs a night out with the boys. Give him the time and space to go, and your couch will sound like a much better idea after an hour or so if you give him some room to come